Life doesn’t fit on a screen and that is OK.
It is important to remember that life is bigger and more complicated than what a tweet, photo, article, post, update, or YouTube video can convey.
This is not about hiding the negative and only sharing the polished positive versions of ourselves online. This is about giving people permission to have private matters in our lives without feeling shame or blame.
It is ok to:
- feel sad,
- be mad,
- make a mistake
- have an unpopular opinion,
- do something weird,
- be boring,
- be unproductive or super productive,
- or just keep something to yourself for no reason at all.
When I see a photo of your cat, I’m happy to see your cat but I don’t think you are the crazy cat lady. I know there is more to you than I’m being shown.
Vulnerability online is fine and good but even that is still just a shadow of real life. It is an image of an image pointing to something else. Don’t feel bad about your online self not being 100% you, it never will be. You are 100% human and that doesn’t fit on a screen.
All that being said don’t keep things bottled up that are causing you harm just because you don’t want to share them online. Share them with just one safe person. It could be a friend, a teacher, a family member, your therapist, spiritual director, pastor, priest, or a help line. You can also try praying. I believe that God sees us fully and loves us fully (no exceptions).